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Monday, January 30, 2012

"An Open Letter to Karen Santorum"

In the spirit of Jonathon Swift, as a friend says, Annette Gross has penned a missive to Karen Santorum. Most likely she will never read it, which is truly unfortunate, but even if she does, it's highly improbable that she will "get it."


"Dear Karen,

Yesterday I read that you are upset with the gays and feel that what they are doing to your husband is backyard bullying. Well, Karen, I feel your pain. I can only imagine what it must be like for poor Rick to get up every day knowing that so many people don't like him for who he is.

It has to be difficult standing up in front of the TV cameras knowing that at any minute, someone he doesn't know might rush up to him and push him or throw something at him for no good reason. I wonder if he has to use back doors to leave a building so the gay bullies won't be able to find him, follow him home and beat him up.

Does he hide under the covers in bed at night, crying about the injustice of it all and feeling that no one else in the world understands? What would you do if one night your husband didn't come home? What if he just couldn't take it anymore and ran away to another city where no one knew him, only to find that no one would take him in and he had to sell drugs on the streets or prostitute himself just to be able to feed himself?

And Karen, it must not be only the gays who bully Rick, but the pro-choice people too. Given his stance on abortion, he must cower thinking that women who have been raped or been the victims of incest might be after him too.

Does he run down alleys when he leaves a debate, hoping these women, heavy with babies they didn't ask for, don't come lumbering after him, ready to shove him into a garbage can or knock him down and stomp on his face, leaving him half-dead in the alley? What if these "sinners" reached him and tied him up to a tree, and beat him senseless?

Oh Karen, I hope that you can find the support you need. Perhaps you and the other wives of the far-Right Republican candidates, who also might feel that the gays are bullying them for no apparent reason, can start your own support group. There, in the safety of a warm, loving group of spouses who are just like you, you can talk freely about your fears and worries.

I know that you want to make the world an easier place for people like Rick - where he and others like him don't have to worry that if they make homophobic remarks against a group of people who basically have no rights, they won't be judged unfairly. You see Karen, I am the mother of a gay son.

I know what it's like when I call my son and he doesn't answer and I worry that something terrible might have happened to him. I know that you worry that one day you might come home and find Rick hanging from a rope, just like the hundreds of young LGBT teens who have recently taken their lives, because society vilifies them, just like you feel the gays vilify your husband. I know what it's like to be awake at 3 a.m., worrying about your loved one's safety.

Karen, my heart goes out to you. I hope you find the comfort you desire. But Karen, believe me, you won't get that comfort from me.

I, along with thousands of other parents of LGBT children, are too busy to worry about Rick. We are working to ensure that, despite the hateful rhetoric espoused by your husband and others like him, that our kids get an even chance in this world. We want them to be able to live, work, and share the same benefits that you and your husband enjoy.

Karen, I wish you well. And Karen, I hope it doesn't take you as long as it's taken us, the parents of LGBT children, to let the world know what the actual, real-life toll of bullying takes on OUR families.

Sincerely,

Annette Gross
A PFLAG Mom"




13 comments:

  1. Chances are, with all of his kids, one of them is gay. Kind of like Ronnie Reagan or Dick Chaney. The Lord moves in mysterious (and mostly hysterical) ways.

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  2. Karen and Rick Santorum should both read that piece, although I doubt it would do any good. Minds and hearts as closed as theirs atrophy over time. They're more to pitied than condemned for the way they are. For what Rick does politically, he's got some condemnation coming to him.

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  3. This letter has pretty much gone viral on FB, especially on the LGBT sites and those who support them, but the Santorums are the kind of people who would make a point of NOT reading it. I suppose they should be pitied but I have a hard time pitying anyone so full of hate, and not only toward gays, especially when they use their religion as a prop. He represents all I abhor about the religious right.

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  4. If Rick Santorum thinks his party holds the moral high ground, he had better look around him at some of the Republicans who have aspired to win his party’s nomination.

    They pander to a Religious Right which apparently has missed the messages “Judge not, that ye be not judged” (Matthew 7:1) and “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” (John 8:7)

    Here’s Matthew 7, an open letter to the Religious Right. Subject line: Hypocrites. Signed by Jesus Christ:

    http://www.bartleby.com/108/40/7.html

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    1. I really appreciate your efforts here, but unfortunately, the religious right uses mostly the OT to support their hatred and when they use the NT, it is often these very same passages that are used to excuse the transgressions of people like Gingrich. They tend to embrace what suits them and reject what doesn't. Please note - I am talking about the religious right in the main.

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  5. HEADS UP: Santorum has Little Sir Echo in the person of TN state Senator Stacey Campfield - not too surprising considering that TN is working overtime to outrank its sister states in the process of putrification. Campfield sponsored the "Don't Say Gay" bill, compares homosexuality to bestiality, and wants to protect students who bully gays in schools. He received a dose of his own medicine this past Sunday.

    Squatlo-Rant, who has been following the antics of this cretin, describes the incident in his snarky best.

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  6. The book of Leviticus is a fraud. Frodo has the proof. It is not hard to find, all it takes is an open mind and an accepting heart. Without Leviticus, Santorum becomes the eldest son of Don Corleone. Just another misbegotten hoodlum.

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    1. He's as unethical and hypocritical as all the rest of them. Worse, he's probably the dumbest of the four so-called candidates, not that any of them are high-powered in that department.

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  7. Leslie.... picked up on Squatlo's post...about Campbell... reposted on my blog and FB

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    1. Saw your FB post but have been too busy rabble rousing on behalf of Planned Parenthood, so really haven't had time for visitin' and sech. Squatlo has a special gift, doesn't he?

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  8. Nice post Leslie... it's always good to visit sanity, as opposed to the insanity that rules some of the more conservative blogs...

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    1. Thanks, Dave. I have a feeling there are a few who might not agree with that "sanity" bit. ;)

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